Another year passed by.. how?
Posted by Pepper on April 14, 2012
I turned a year older yesterday. *Gasp*. Didn’t my birthday just go by? No really, it couldn’t have been a year already. I feel like I just wrote this post. I don’t care about the number attached to my age. I care about the social pressure that comes with it. The pressure to be responsible, pressure to show maturity, pressure to sound wise. A 16 year old sounding stupid is acceptable, expected almost. A 26 year old, not so much.
So I am back in Bombay, and the thought of not having Mint around on my birthday was making me sulk. I expected him to be the first one to call me. Instead, he called me 22 minutes late. I had some of my friends racing each other, just because they wanted to be the first to call. And there I was, disappointed each time I saw a different name flashing on my mobile screen. To add salt to my wounds, every friend of mine assumed I was already talking to Mint, so they hung up in a minute, saying they didn’t want to eat into my time with him. I didn’t have the heart to tell anybody that he hadn’t called me yet, so I played along. By 12:15 am, almost everybody had finished wishing me. I couldn’t believe I hadn’t heard from Mint yet. So guess what I did? I burst into tears.
He called me at 12:22 and wished me. I was so upset by then, I didn’t even want to talk to him. He said he had been really caught up with stuff and he lost track of time. That made him 22 minutes late. Of course I couldn’t forgive him that easily. So I cried and sulked some more, and felt incredibly stupid after that. I know I was justified in being upset, but why would I break down and weep like the world had fallen apart? I guess I really felt let down by him. How could he be the last one to call me? If you want to sympathize with me, go ahead and do it. If you want to tell me I over reacted, then shhh..
Other than that, I had a fun day. My parents and sis handed me my gift a little after midnight the previous day. Along with a very appropriate card and a long hand written note, that I am too embarrassed to display. I met friends for lunch, we cut the cake in the evening and I went out for dinner with the family. And through out the day, I jumped a little in excitement, telling everybody around me, “It’s my birthday! It’s my birthday”.
Now if only they could come up with a self cleaning room, my life would be perfect.





Anusha said
Belated Happy Birth Day Pepper !! Wishing you happiness always
Pepper said
Thanks a lot Anusha
snehasankar said
Belated Birthday wishes! =) No 3 day celebration this time around? =)
Pepper said
Nope. Sigh. That happens only when Mint is around. Nobody else takes me seriously when I tell them it’s my birthday the next day as well.
aame said
Happy BIrthday !!! I believe wishes are never belated
Pepper said
I agree. Thank you!
perspectivesandprejudices said
Happy Birthday Pepper!
Wish you a Happy Year Ahead!
Pepper said
Thanks
Shweta said
Wish You a Very Happy Birthday Pepper..
Hope you had great fun.. !!
I understand what you went through last night.. Life is tough than we know on that campus, sply the first tri-sem.. I have been at the receiving end for one long year just like you .. (I guess it appeared longer).. Pray for Patience, else getting through would get tougher.. I hope you have the option of flying to him whenever you can.. at least that would make the period sustainable.. All The Best and I wish the TAPASYA you both are putting in is fruitful that you imagine..
Shweta said
*I meant is fruitful, sooner than you imagine..
*
Pepper said
Thanks Shweta.. I can see Mint every other weekend. Hopefully, it won’t be as tough. And thanks! We do hope the end result is fruitful!
Reema said
Belated wishes!!
Pepper said
Thanks!
R's Mom said
Oh belated Happy Birthday…Gah! I even messaged you and didnt wish you..sorry!!!
LOL on the 22 minutes late..waise let me tell you something..its my Amma’s birthday today..I forgot my phone at RD’s cousin’s place yesterday and we had told her about it..today morning RD had gone out for a run and then we didnt call her because I didnt remember the number (I am so so horrible na!) anyways so at about 8.30 she calls me on the landline and sulks..its my birthday today…Yes amma, happy birthday I tell her, you didnt call me..she says…everyone else did!!!
So there..and just for the records she turned 58!!! So there you go…you have company darling
Pepper said
Thanks RM. You didn’t message me on my birthday, and anyway, how would you have known?
Your Amma is adorable! I don’t blame her fur sulking at all. Mine would be mighty upset and even throw tantrums if I didn’t wish her at midnight. Hope your mum had a fun birthday!
Deboshree said
(Belated) Happy birthday Pepper.
I love that card. But I also love cleaning my room…About Mint calling up late, you have my complete sympathy. I would have been equally mad. It is a birthday after all!
Glad to know you had a good one. Have a great year ahead.
Pepper said
Glad I have your sympathy D! I am still mad at him. Hmph.
Thanks!
Anu said
Hi Pepper:
Glad to know you had a birthday surrounded by your family.
Self-cleaning room…lol..did you remember to wish for them while blowing up your candles?
lol
Anu
Anu said
oops… meant to say.. “while blowing your candles” ….
Pepper said
Actually, I just realised something. For a year now, I do live in a self cleaning room. When else will I get to use my sis like that. *Evil laugh*
DI said
Totally justified, your sulking was! I would have also bawled and made a scene I swear! These guys, they need to have reminders set :S
Perhaps forgiving him could be your first mature step in this new year!
Belated Birthday wishes
Pepper said
I did make enough of a scene, trust me. I did try very hard to forgive him, but honestly, I don’t think I’ve been able to get over it
I can forgive, I find it very hard to forget.
Mypunchingbag said
happy happy birthday pepper!
Pepper said
Thankies!
Shamim said
Happy Birthday Pepper! Sounds like you had a good one!:-)
Pepper said
I did! Thanks!
pixie said
Happy Happy Birthday!!
hugs!!
Hope you have a wonderful year ahead of you filled with everything you want and wish and more!
Pepper said
Thank you Pix! Hugs!
Preethi said
Hi Pepper…belated birthday wishes. Hope you had a fun filled day.
Pepper said
Thanks Preethi. I had a fun day indeed.
lifeslittletwists said
Many Many Happy Returns of the Day Pepper! Have a wonderful year ahead – and wishing that most of it is spent with Mint living upto all your expectations!
Muuuaaahhh.
And hmmm…I’ll just says shh…..
Pepper said
Now that sounds like a good wish. Thank you!
garima said
Belated birthday wishes to you Pepper…may this year pass by soon and next birthday you get to celebrate it with Mint..till then stay happy and healthy
Pepper said
I want to celebrate my next birthday with both – my family and Mint. Each year I have to choose between one of them. Hopefully, the next year I won’t have to. Thanks a lot Garima!
metherebel said
Belated happy bday pepper!
You hit the bull’s eye with the pressures of being responsible with age and worse if you are married
Pepper said
Oh yes, being married just adds to the pressure all the time. Especially if you are a woman. Sigh.
Ashwathy said
Fabulous! Belated bday wishes, babe
Hahah something similar happened to me last to last bday. In my case, hubby (then-fiance) had been on the fone with me and I was also online and my sis-in-law was chatting with me. The clock struck midnight and I was going on chanting wish me wish me wish me before someone else did. He was waiting teasing me saying oh big deal , wait just a bit more, wait just a bit more. And then in a split second, my SIL who was anyway online (from the US) realized its midnight in India and wished me right away. I was so mad and upset …it’s not even funny. He was like
Today however I can smile about it though
Good old memories….
Good to have a bday with your family this time, ain’t it?
And…in case this helps…you don’t look 26 from any angle
Pepper said
Lol.. I would’ve thrown a fit had I been in your place. Especially cos he was like
Mint has acquired some smartness over time. He knew it was wise to apologise profusely and accept the fact that it was a grave blunder..
Hey, I would actually like looking my age!
Ashwathy said
Yeah he eventually went on to apologize realising he screwed up. But by then I was already mad

Then he sounded like he felt so bad that eventually i was like, leave it. Coz remembering it would make me feel even worse.
BTW about WANTING to look your age…remind me to ask you this 10 years from now
Pepper said
OKay.. I’ll remind you to ask me. I guess I wouldn’t mind looking my age even 10 years down the line. Let’s see how long I say this
Ashwathy said
vethal said
May be he called earlier and ur friends calls made the line busy
happy belated b day pepper.
Pepper said
I would’ve felt a lot better had that been the case. But no, he did tell me he lost track of time cos of being involved with some other important stuff
Pri.. said
Happy Birthday Pepper!!! You look like 16 (and not 26) in the picture:). Your petite size and cute haircut make me say so…
Pepper said
Thanks for the wishes Pri! I doubt I look 16, but anyway..
Smita said
Belated B’day wishes

I don’t think u over reacted (ok u cud have saved the tears) but then I guess u were missing Mint that is why this happened
Psst what was the gift???
And seriously u look like a kid in that pic!!! What’s the secret?
Pepper said
I know I could have saved the tears.. but never mind.
The gift, it was a large collage of my pics. Right from the day I was born to now, made quite artistically. We’ve framed it in my room
Secret eh? I don’t think there is any.. Lol.
Bhavani said
Belated Wishes Pepper…..I agree with you..22 minutes is not acceptable ok..not at all
)
Anyways seems like you had a great day with Friends and Family…Here’s to more…
-Bhavani
Pepper said
I had a great day.. and hopefully Mint wont dare to lose track of time again
.. Thanks Bhavani!
Tanishka said
Belated happy birthday Peppy…
And yeah your sulking is fully justified… You are not alone there…
Pepper said
Good to know!
Thanks!
alwayshappykya said
I am really late here. Sorry is lame…but I am really bad at remembering dates
Forgive, will ya pleas?
Hearties of wishes for a beautiful year ahead. may it turn out much better than you ever imagined!
{{Hugs}}
Pepper said
Hey.. don’t be sorry. I usually don’t expect anybody to remember my bday. Other than the family and the BFFs. Everybody else is a bonus. How would you remember? I didn’t even have any notification on FB on. And without that, it’s hard to keep track of dates na? Already there is so much going on in all our lives. Don’t worry about it
Hugs!
Little Fingers said
Belated Happy Birthday Pepper, wish you a wonderful year ahead. We all do expect that call from that someone special and I can totally see myself there. I am sure Mint learn that as you both travel long with each other
Pepper said
Ah I am sure he knows all of that already. It’s only about being able to keep track of time as it nears midnight. This time I know he was genuinely caught up so I will try and overlook it
Thank you!
Jazz said
Belated birthday wishes Pepper..
Pepper said
Thanks!
Taa's mom said
Happy Birthday Pepper !! Here’s to more happiness with family and friends
Pepper said
Thanks so much Taa’s mom
Childwoman said
Belated birthday wishes Pepper! hope you had fun
Pepper said
Thanks CW. Hope you doing well
Ria said
Aww…happy b’lated b’day btw! I don’t think u over reacted….even I wud be mad at my hubby if he wasnt the 1st to wish me.
Pepper said
I didn’t think I over reacted cos I was mad. Of course I was justified in being mad. I said I over reacted cos I wept like a maniac.
Thanks Ria!
KB said
Belated Happy Birthday Pepper! Celebrating amidst family is the best thing ever
Pepper said
Most certainly is
Thanks!
vishalbheeroo said
Hey Pepper
belated happyyy birthday..u still in Mumbai? wow! I envy u!!!!!! been out of the circuit 4 long. cheers
Pepper said
I am in Mumbai now… hopefully for good. *Fingers crossed*
vishalbheeroo said
Hey Pepper that’s awesome an superb news:)
Pepper said
Isn’t it
miffalicious said
Dearest Pepper, wishing you a very happy birthday(belated) and that this year is filled with all things good, joyful, and lots and lots of love. I’m sorry that incident with Mint happened; that’s what happens when we love someone too much, even the slightest of actions on their part has the effect of rocking our world. I’m glad you had a good day with your family and that days hereon are filled with better things
x
Pepper said
Thank you so very much
Ram Pyaari said
Belated birthday wishes
Pepper said
Thanks! ….