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Year 3 – Happy Anniversary, Mint

Posted by Pepper on March 29, 2013

Dear Mint,

A few days ago, we completed 3 years of married life. I didn’t get a chance to put this post up on the right date, because we were just so busy! Running around on campus, saying our goodbyes to your classmates, packing up and putting the remnants of your student life in boxes, using the last few moments on campus to socialise, gearing up for your graduation ceremony, running on the station platform, lugging overstuffed, giant sized bags in order to make it to the train, it was all such a blur.

We were actually in the train on the eve of our wedding anniversary, and when the clock struck 12, I glanced at you. You were lying on the opposite berth, exhausted. I looked at you for a few moments as the train chugged ahead. The moment seemed symbolic. We were moving forward. We were in transit. That moment perfectly represents our life right now. Don’t you think? We are moving towards a new job, a new life, and many changes.

Do you remember the time, long before we were married, when you told me you wanted to do your MBA? Do you remember how disturbed I was by the idea? I knew how demanding the top school MBA programs were. I didn’t want to be competing for your time, not with your classes, books, assignments and a bursting schedule. So you decided to push your MBA. You said you would do it after we got married.

When we did get married, it was time for you to go to school. But I threw a fit again. We were newly married, I didn’t want to share you with anybody or anything, not this soon. I wanted to have fun with you. So you let go of your admits and decided to defer your MBA for me. Again.

At the back of my mind, I always felt guilty. Was I depriving you of something you wanted for my own selfish needs? Perhaps. Throughout our married life, that thought kept nagging me every now and then. So when you donned your graduation robe and walked to the stage to collect your MBA degree, I felt not only a surge of pride, I also felt like I had attained closure. Something that had remained incomplete, how now been completed. Your MBA was done. And I felt happy, proud and fulfilled.

The past year was all about your MBA, and learning to survive the distance. If there was one thing I learnt, it was to value you. Did you notice, we barely argued through out the year. Each time we met, we mostly smiled, hugged and cuddled. So when I am overcome by the desire to smack you, when I see you glued to the TV, or playing temple run for the nth time, or when I want to kick your ass for staring at the laptop screen when I am talking to you, I will remind myself of the times when I was willing to overlook all of this, just to be able to spend a few moments with you by my side.

The other day, we happened to be shopping for me at Lifestyle. I spotted an offer – buy 3 tees for the price of 2. Not being the kind to let go of a deal, you encouraged me to buy 3 tees. I tried to fish out 3 ‘Small’ sized tees from the basket. Since I am too lazy and uncaring, I conveniently picked up the the tees that were lying at the top. Who wanted to rummage through the entire pile? But you wanted me to have the best of the lot. So you asked me to step aside, and you continued to search for and pull out the small sized tees from the bottom, painstakingly evaluating and shortlisting them for me.

A few moments later, I found a woman asking you if you had a particular tee in a larger size. I was a little miffed. Does he look like a salesman? And then when I looked around, I realised why she would have mistaken you for one. You were the only guy, standing amidst a hundred women around a basket that said ‘Sale’, in the women’s clothing section. Now you don’t go around seeing too many guys carefully examining and holding a bunch of women’s tees, do you?

I asked you later, if the incident bothered you. Didn’t it trouble you? Standing in the midst of women, doing a ‘woman’s job’, and being mistaken for a salesman? “Who cares? As long as you got some good tees”, you said. And that is why I think you are awesome. The fact that you never seem to care about what the world thinks or says. The fact that you fight for the best for me, even when I am too lazy to do it for myself. The fact that you never ever expect me to cook or clean just because you are a man and I am your wife adds to it. I see you fighting the battles of feminism with other men, and I feel proud of you.

I am putting up a picture of ours that I think truly depicts and sums up our relationship.

That is us. Carefree, holding on to each other, dancing in the middle of the night, on the streets of Amsterdam, with no inhibitions. May we sail through life, just like that.

Lots of love,

— Pepper


55 Responses to “Year 3 – Happy Anniversary, Mint”

  1. MInt n Pepepr- Wonderful wishes for many many more years of wedded bliss. You both deserve each other !

  2. I just loved the pic. Mint seems to be superman :). And congratulations on completing 3 years of marriage. Btw is the new job taking you guys to a new city/country?

  3. R's Mom said

    Sigh! can I just say that again…sigh!

    Ekdum Kala Tikka to both of you okie…happy belated anniversary 🙂

  4. vishalbheeroo said

    Hey pepper
    Congo..you guys came a long way and lovely pic. Hows about showing your id on the blog now..lol:)

  5. AaeKay said

    Awwwwww this is so so so touching!! :’)
    Happy anniversary dear Pepper and Mint! May you hold onto each other, no matter how times are. Wishing you all the happiness in the world!
    Amen. 🙂

  6. This is the sweetest letter ever! Happy anniversary, Pepper! 🙂

  7. Swaram said

    Phew! This is the fourth time I am trying to leave a comment here. Excuse if all of them hv gotten thru, since I can’t see any 😛

    Happy anniversary and stay as much in love always, u two 🙂 Hugs!

  8. Santulan said

    Oh this is good on so many levels.

    For some reason this reminds me of the song Bekarar karke hume yu na jaiye I think you would sing it to mint 🙂

    Yes as you pointed out, not only is the achievement of MBA an achievement, but brings a sense of satisfaction and content. The two of you can now devote more time together 🙂

    Cheers to the rest of the life ahead.

    and nice hat, mint

  9. My Era said

    A very Happy (belated) Anniversary to both of you 😀
    May you both saty the same awesome selves with your love & relationship growing stronger with each passing day. Forever!!

  10. Awwww 🙂 This is such a lovely post 🙂 Happy anniversary Pepper Mint , May you both be blessed with hundreds of years of togetherness and love!!

  11. Happy anniversary pepper and mint! This post had me smiling all the while!! It is truely awesome to get a friend in your husband.
    We celebrated our 3rd last month too!
    Many more such happy and fun years to you guys!

  12. This is such a gorgeous post – every sentence made so beautiful, flowing with love.

    Now that you two are back together may the passion for each other continue to linger on.

    BTW, that pic is just fantastic. Your dress is drool worthy 😀

  13. Aah Happy Anniversary! The setting in train sounds so perfect.

    As for the guilt, let me tell you I would have done the same thing had I known how demanding it was going to be. In our case the “MBA” word came in much early, even before we were in a relationship, or probably, the very first day in office when The Bloke was speaking of his aspiration. So, in our case, MBA was more like “way of life” and at that time, just the quaterly tution fees seemed daunting and we expected everything else to be a breezer. How naive!

    Best wishes for the new beginnings.

    Thanks to the lady, otherwise duds like me, will never notice or apreciate such stuff!

  14. MR said

    congrats , very lovely , your love and togetherness is like a breath of fresh air. Wishing you joy and much happiness and a loving feminist hubby by your side always. 🙂

  15. Aww……….Such a cute post! Only thing missing were little red hearts floating around 🙂 No probs, by the time I was done reading this post, I was seeing them anyways 😀 😀 ! Wishing you guys many many years of wedded bliss.

  16. Comfy said

    Amen to the last time!

    I wrote you an email in my head the day of your big three but as with most things in my life these days I stayed in my head. I am glad I get to wish you here, now. Little late but still.

    Dear Pepper and Mint, may the dancing never stop, the holding each other never stop, the being together never stop. Happy 3rd year of being together. And may there be more than many many more. 🙂

  17. Niyati said

    That is so beautifully wiritten Pepper. I love the way you express your thoughts in simple yet effective language. You both are the perfect couple! Happy Anniversary and here’s wishing you many more to come.

  18. Awww…Happy Anniversary !
    You both are truly made for each other !
    Such a sweetheart husband -mint makes ! All that a girl can ask for…
    Such a darling wife you are Pepper !
    May you both be blessed with all goodness !

  19. Smita said

    Belated Anniversary wishes 🙂

    And that photo is cute!!!

  20. Ashwathy said

    You can very well imagine the smile on my face now right? How close home this hits me? 🙂
    I guess my hubby dear could write this post (or maybe a part of it) a couple of years from now.

    So when I am overcome by the desire to smack you, when I see you glued to the TV, or playing temple run for the nth time, or when I want to kick your ass for staring at the laptop screen when I am talking to you,
    Oho! So it’s not just my hubby! 😀 It’s men in general! 😛

    The fact that you never seem to care about what the world thinks or says. The fact that you fight for the best for me, even when I am too lazy to do it for myself.
    Been there, done that. I truly understand where that came from 🙂 I think I’ve already told you this anyway.

    Love that pic. Amen! 🙂

  21. Happy Anniversary !!!

  22. pixie said

    Happy Happy Anniversary sweetie!! 🙂
    Wishing you many many more years of love, togetherness , happiness!!
    God Bless!

  23. Jazz said

    Wow, lots and lots of best wishes to PepperMint, happy anniversary !!

  24. ashreyamom said

    happy happy anniversary dear.. 🙂

  25. Childwoman said

    Just one word – BLESSED!

  26. mniranjani said

    Such a lovely love letter. Happy Anniversary 🙂 Where is the new job taking you both?

  27. metherebel said

    I went Awww at the end of it 🙂

    Happy Anniversary Pepper and Mint 🙂 Wish you many many more years of togetherness 🙂

    Pepper your husband is a gem!

  28. Meera said

    Congratulations!!! I hope you guys have a wonderful, wonderful life together. By the way, that is one Hollywood worthy picture. Kudos to the subjects and the photographer 🙂

  29. Deepa said

    Yup, and may there be caviar(whatever if your good food desire), good wine and great spirits along the way. Happy 3rd Pepper. As a 13 years and counting mostly-happily married warrior just know that it only gets better. The dips help you savor the ups. And no you never really know each other 100% well and thats the fun that keeps a tad of the mystery alive.

  30. Deepa said

    I think some spell check needed on my comment above but I hope you got it:-)

  31. Shweta said

    Touchwood.. !!! 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀

  32. Shamim said

    Happy Anniversary Pepper and Mint! Your sweet, love filled letter to Mint put a smile on my face. May you have many many more anniversaries filled with love, happiness and carefree moments.

  33. techie2mom said

    Happy wedding anniversary – belated 🙂
    Best wishes for the new beginning…
    Both of you look great together 🙂

  34. aarya said

    Congratulations to both of you !!
    I recently started reading blogs and don’t even remember how I stumbled to this one. Love every bit of your writing and admire the honesty in your posts.
    Wish you guys wonderful times ahead. Stay Blessed.

  35. Are you sure you completed 3 years, I remember reading your first anniversary. That means I have been reading you for 2 years now..OMG time is flying..

    That pic looks so sexy, you both look so perfect in there.

    Wishing you and Mint many more beautiful years together 🙂

  36. K said

    That’s such a lovely pic! Congratulations to the both of you!

  37. Preethi said

    Belated anniversary wishes to both of you ! I love that pic Pepper.

  38. Saanjh said

    WOW!!! What a perfect post…This makes your life sound so fairy-tale-like… And I loved your pic.. Looks like out-of-a-movie-shot… And a belated Happy Anniversary.. Wish you many more and may your bond stay like this forever and grow stronger and sweeter with time…:)

  39. norrbu said

    wow – happy for you.

  40. Jas said

    A very happy anniversary to you Pepper. First time here and totally loved the ode to love. 🙂

  41. whoaa!!! that was one awesome anniversary gift for him! A very happy anniversary to u both!

  42. Pepper said

    Thank you people! Your comments and wishes mean a lot!

  43. Richa said

    Hey Pepper…where are you? Hope all’s well…….

  44. Deboshree said

    Congrats on the third-year anniversary, Pepper!
    Wishing the two of you many wonderful years of togetherness. 🙂 🙂

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