A dash of Pepper…

…with a splash of Mint

K for Kickback

Posted by Pepper on April 19, 2019

The one time I look forward to all day is the end of the day when I can actually kick back and just be, without having to jump to my feet to tend to the next task at hand. This time for me usually starts by 10 pm at night.

Typically, I watch TV, or read, or waste my time on Instagram. These days I have been trying to also fit in a blog post. But in the past few days, I find myself dreaming of my time to kick back and put my feet up all day. That is all I want to do. It has reached a point where the inertia is beginning to interfere with everything in my life.

I am exhausted. Physically, because I seem to be carrying Cotton and Candy a gazillion times in a day. I have to lift them to put them in and out of their cribs. I have to lift them to put them in and out of their high chairs. I have to lift them to put them in an out of their car seats. I have to lift them to put them in and out of grocery carts. And when all this lifting is multiplied by two, it starts getting to you. And did I mention the number of times I throw them up in the air just to hear their laughter? And then feel the ache and soreness in my arms? I know, I am a masochist.

We have also entered the phase where they show resistance for everything. So every time we are changing a diaper, they will roll away and I will have to bring kid one back. Only to find him wiggling and running again and I have to go back, chase the said kid and use extra strength to hold him or her down. Then I have to repeat the process for kid 2. Same for putting on their pajamas at night. Or for forcefully lifting a child out of the truck they want to ride because it is bedtime. You see, when the opposing force physically resists you, you need to put in double the strength to execute your task. New definition of resistance training?

And if managing toddler twins is not physically draining enough, you have other tasks to cater to. Cooking, sweeping, dishes. And if you even dare to tell me that we have the dish washer, I will smack you hard. Because dish washer still demands that each dish be rinsed individually first. Making sure there is no residue. You then have to bend to to unload the previous load. And then bend again multiples times to reload.

I have to add that I am not doing this alone. Everything I described is done by Mint as well and we are still as exhausted.

Emotionally, I am probably even more exhausted. Because, toddler twins. Try talking in exaggerated tones, make funny faces, read to the kids with expression, sing, express surprise, talk with exclamation, clap, clap again, repeat ‘God Job!’ 87824098212 times, sound amused, fist bumps, show excitement as you give high fives, and do this in all your interactions. I’m willing to bet this emotional labour will make you feel drained. You will want to shut yourself in a dark room, stay silent, expressionless and just breathe.

Surprise! Other than being physically and emotionally exhausted, I am also very mentally exhausted. I have been staggering under the weight of my mental load. This is mainly because I am trying to reach not one, but two decisions. Each of enormous magnitude that require me to think. Hard. And I have to think and deal with the aftermath of my thoughts as I go about living my every day life.

Well, this post has taken a completely different turn and it isn’t what I intended to write. But we will let that be. What I wanted to write about was the glorious time of the day when I kick back. The time I wait for all day. Tonight is going to be extra special because I succumbed to what Mint keeps asking me to do. We decided to buy food from outside for the next 3 to 4 days. This not only means no cooking, but it also means an easier clean up since we will barely have any dishes. So tonight when I lie back and watch some TV, I will live with that amazing feeling of having much lesser to do for the next few days. At least physically. The rest is here to stay.

13 Responses to “K for Kickback”

  1. I didn’t know you have twins. This post makes me smile and imagine the fun you have with both of them.

  2. Amen Pepper!:)
    And if you see that link that I sent this is you future baby;)

  3. Jayanti Dutta said

    I feel like all my posts in your comments section are mini lectures to you – please don’t hate me! You are really not supposed to rinse anything before using a dishwasher. That beats the whole point of using one and also wastes water. You are just meant to scrape out loose food residue and load it in the proper way. There are youtube videos on optimal dishwasher stacking etc – personally I just did it by hit and miss until I figured out the right combo for me. If your d/w still doesn’t clean properly, just clean it for limescale and residue and switch to a high performance gel d/w tablet.

    • Pepper said

      Haha, no way. I don’t hate you. Appreciate all your inputs in fact. Okay, so there have been discussions around here on whether or not you are supposed to rinse the dishes before loading them. We have tried loading them without rinsing and it almost always fails me. So many times I have had to pull out plates with dried stains on them 😦 We do use a high performance gel d/w tablet but it probably doesn’t help that I don’t have a high performance dishwasher to start with? Ours seems really old. The ‘Admiral’ brand isn’t even being manufactured anymore. We don’t own this house, so not sure we can do much about what they have provided.

      Also, I understand not having to rinse dishes that have been used in the last hour or so. But do you not rinse dishes that have been used in the morning and are being loaded at night? Haven’t they all gone dry? Does it still work?

      • Jayanti Dutta said

        Phew! I was afraid you would block me or something. Yes I stack my dishes and stuff all day and then run an eco load at night. Dried food remains don’t make a difference. I would suggest you get someone from the company to come have a look. A lousy d/w just drains energy and who knows, maybe a quick servicing will help. Most landlords have insurance for all their appliances and if this needs to be updated and replaced, they would not really lose a lot of money over it. And frankly, d/w in the west are not very expensive. If you plan to continue living here for a while, do get them to change it. Can you imagine how much time it will save you as the twins get older and their fussy eating habits transform into demanding food all the time? πŸ™‚

      • nidhi14jan said

        Chiming in a few tips from my end – Yes, you needn’t rinse dishes before you load them as long as you ensure there is no thick food stuck on the dishes (example – pressure cooker used to make dal- now that definitely needs some handwork before you load it). I let the dishes collect in the sink during the day and only load them at night. I try to ensure that the dishes are stacked in an optimal manner when they go to the sink- the wider items like plates at the bottom with the smaller ones on top or smaller bowls and cups nested inside bigger ones etc. This way, whenever the sink is used for rinsing/hand washing etc the water cascades through all the layers. The dishes are in a sense ‘rinsed’ off any residue that way by evening. Also, no water wastage-yayy!
        We live in a rental too and our dishwasher isnt brand new- but this process has been working well for the past 8 years for us.
        Another tip that will save you some work- I dont empty the dishwasher at one go. During the day, I use the clean dishes straight from the dishwasher as and when I need them. This way, when its time to load the machine, I have a nearly empty dishwasher to unload- lazy tip from lazy me πŸ˜‰

  4. Bhavani said

    Sorry to say welcome to the world of Terrible Twos !!!

    Also in South Bay there are many Indian Ladies who come and help for couple of hrs for cutting cooking etc. Can you look for maybe 2-3 days a week?

    I had one Punjabi lady do that for me when my son was about 2. With full time job and a 5 yr old and 2 yr old, she was of great help.

    I had her come 2 hrs 3 times a week.

    Take care!!

    • Pepper said

      Have heard a lot about those Punjabi aunties who come to chip in. But honestly, we hire more help than we can afford. So hiring more isn’t my top choice right now 😦

  5. Deboshree said

    Take care, Pepper. Hope you enjoy your next few days of ordering in – even a little break like that can be very relaxing in the crazy truckload of things you and Mint do every day! πŸ™‚

  6. Ashwathy said

    Ah! That sounds like a relaxing set of 3-4 days. Pls kickback and enjoy.

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